So here in Vancouver, BC, Canada, Dr. Ruth was doing an inspirational speech on her life and sexuality in general. Her talk was generally about myths and misconceptions of sexuality in today’s society. I found her fantastating. She is amazing and what she has expressed with her opinions on sexuality has changed the negative viewpoints of sexuality into something of a celebration, of an uplifting experience.
I found that during her chat the way she presented herself about sexuality and her life is in a positive tone. Dr. Ruth had many of struggles and challenges in her life but she was the type of person who rose to the occasion when the times were the leanest. Which brought me to this subject about people in general and about challenges in their lives and lets focus this on to sex, but of course.
Over the past four years I have met so many people and yes the majority being women and they tell me all their fears, misceptions and ideas about sex. But the one thing I have always tried to focus on is that sex for women is a concept in the mind not just of physical pleasure. Women are so focussed on the act because of our society focussing on the images and ideal notion that sex is an act, but for women sex is about the mind. Our bodies are tuned into our minds and for women to enjoy, experience and ‘not bitch about sex’ they first have to learn to train their minds to enjoy. The mind in a woman is a powerful tool that if educated to excepting challenges and ideas can become extremely enjoyable.
During Dr. Ruth’s discussion, she also mentioned the fact that the mind of women is all about sex, not just the physical part. During our home parties and in many of the articles that I write, I have often discussed the idea that without getting your mind wrapped around the imagery of sex and orgasms the physical act will not be as enjoyable. The direct link for successful sex is the mind must okay the situation before the physical act.
However, this got me think about stress and the ‘sex’ stress. What I am trying to explain is the courtship and emotional feeling women feel and express about sexual encounters or relationships. Women are often analyzing sex and consistently thinking about the ‘what if". What I am trying to say, is if a women meet some one, a man and even if they have not had sex yet or anything, but there is something there. Women often over analysis the situation, from when is he going to call me to what if I was bad in bed, etc, etc. Women need to relax and just go with the flow. I think if women spent less time analysising the situation and more time accepting the enjoyment of the situation, these stupid mind games and bullshit in courting and dating would be eliminated.
But then I can not ignore men and their analysising ways. Men never use to analysis sex, women etc; they just went with the flow. However more and more men I met in North America can not just relax and go with the flow. Why is that, have they been sabotaged by the way of women and the over analysising of situations. What happened to men and the way they use to think about sex?
So this over analysising is that what has happened with society and why so many people are more into the chase more than the catch or is that why there are so many single people in today’s society. Have we become a society that can not meet on the same surface when it comes to sex and not analysis the situation to death?
