So this past year, I have decided to dedicate a small portion of my time to finding out how to meet people, either the same sex or the opposite sex and either friendship, relationship or just human contact.

First note and one of the most popular subjects is dating or meeting websites for meeting people.

DATING SITES - VIA WWW.

Dating sites, shit there are thousands and thousands of them out there from real dating and meeting sites to intimate encounter sites for one-night stands. I could list off hundreds and thousands of names. Dating sites are dangerous because you are exposing yourself on the Internet. However, many people say that my site exposes a lot about me, however, I have ways to protect myself and knock on wood nothing has happened to date.

But back to dating sites, do they work, I have no idea, it is based on what you want out of them. I personally like them as you get to meet new people and since I don’t seem to socialize other than with business, they seem okay to meet nice people. However, since I am not looking for a relationship, I find that people on the dating sites are quite sincere about looking for a relationship, either companionship or love. Therefore this is a good way to meet people but caution in doing so as there are freaks out there.

My Rules for using a dating site.

Your information should be basic but you should be honest, do not use the term fit figure if you have a beer belly, and average is just that average. You should be honest about your intentions, which is either to meet someone for a relationship or just for sex. I have noticed that a lot of men do look for extra-marital affairs, or just one-night stands via a dating site.

Your picture this is quite important based on how many responds you are looking for.

If you want traffic to your personal ad, you better have a niche. A niche is something different, something that disquishes you from the others. My niche is my long red hair and my sexual preference of being bi-sexual. Also my attitude helps in the manner.

Your attitude in the written part is really important because it gets to the serious people who are quite sincere about meeting new people.

Do not give any personal contact information or where you work etc, next thing you know you could have a starker. I meet this one guy who wanted to come by my work and watch me work because he felt that it was a good way to really get to know someone. Trust me I did not answer that reply.

When meeting for the first time, ensure that you have chatted enough via email and on the telephone first, and never get them to come by your place to pick you up. Always meet on neutral ground, i.e. coffee, dinner etc.

Personally I am quite bitchy and carry a lot of attitude with people, because of my business and the men I met seem to think that I am a slut that I screen the men very carefully and go on gut opinion. Therefore the last rule, go via your gut feeling about the person. And that is the best advise I can give you.

Another note about dating sites are that many of the men or women might be chatting with you and a few other people, it isn't a good thing to discuss this matter. In fact, I find it repulsive finding out information about other women from the men I am chatting with from a dating site. It is none of my business and the information is not welcomed. Think about it for a second, how would you like to hear the details about my relationships either sexually or non-sexual that I am currently pursuing at the time while trying to get to know you. Please some things should not be discussed, until a later date.

The conclusion about dating sites, I find them very impersonal, and quite overwhelming, and to be honest I would never pay for them.

DATING CLUBS

Dating clubs or the popular Hurry Date, 25 Dates, Rotatadate and the list goes on and on. What do I think about these clubs, sorry businesses. They can be fun and it can be quite an entertaining evening to meet new people. However once again they are overwhelming and meeting so many people in one night is a bit much. No wonder they offer you a free drink. I would recommend them in meeting new people but only try them once or twice and they you will probably find them as boring as I do.

THE BAR SCENE

The bar and pub scene. Well this scene has always worked well for me, but then I have never looked for someone I want to have a meaningful relationship with. As a woman in a bar or pub, if you go alone you will met someone, because you are forced to meet people. This gets you to be social.

However most women will not go to pubs and bars alone therefore defeating the purpose of meeting someone. It is not dangerous if you do not get too drunk and go on your gut feeling about people. Also if you are into taking the person home for a one-night stand then you have been warned about the dangers and concerns. However meeting men in a pub or restaurant atmosphere is not a bad way to meet people.

SOCIAL ACTIVITIES OR THE GYM

Your gym or sport clubs, personally I hate meeting people in the gym, especially because I use my workout session as a tension release moment not a social moment. But for some people this works well for them as they see the gym as a social gathering place. Well it is a lot safer than bars and on-line so I do recommend this method. However a personal note for women, you main purpose of going to these sport clubs is to play sports then you should not dress the part of trying to look for a new friend as your first priority.

BUSINESS EVENTS

Business events and business gathering, well I can honestly say that is the one area in meeting people that seems to work for most people. However the positive and negative impact on mixing business with pleasure can cause a disaster for business in some cases. You have been warned, never play with someone in your business field unless you feel that it will not affect your business. Since I am so lucky to get invited to the adult industry events and I have seen my far share of group sex gatherings. I can honestly say that you must go on your gut feeling with the mixing of business contacts and pleasure contacts. You could get burned in more ways than one.

THE OLD FASHION METHOD OF JUST BEING FRIENDLY

The last method, I am going to chat about is the basic method, which is taking the time to meet people in a social setting otherwise known as the old fashion way.

Meeting people the old fashion way does not mean the bars or clubs. Clubs and bars are a great way to meet one-night stands, why would anyone want to date someone who is drunk out of their fucking mind and looking to get laid.

The old fashion ways was meeting people through friends, companions or just being friendly to people in your area. The later of the comments, being friendly to people in your area. We have turned into a society where we move from place to place without human contact. For example, the majority of us visit the same shops on a regular basis or the same gas station every week. However the majority of people do not smile or say good day to any one we meet at our regular pit stops. No one ever says hi to me shopping or paying for gasoline etc. I do this a lot and saying hi to someone in passing is polite. This is how to meet people, which unfortunately our society has stopped doing for years, is just friendly conversation and human contact.

Human contact has turning into introductions and how did you meet via Internet sites, social events, etc. What has happened has turned us into looking for relationships a mission. Haven’t we lost the basic meaning of relationships as meeting people.

Okay this is a heavy note about relationships and human contact. But I can’t help feeling that divorce, relationship break-ups and bad attitudes all come from society’s point of the relationship and having a social status. What happened with just going through life without the pressures and when did these pressures happen.

Actually the pressures of relationships came with the same with the phrase “keeping up with the Jones”. I can’t help but think that so many of social hiccups are due to social pressures but who the fuck put these on us.

Hey, but that is my opinion.

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