The last few parties of 2003, last year, that I have attending being either in the business or just general social parties, I have noticed how nasty some people can be. In the last few weeks, people are just inconsiderate and rude. What has happened to the good neighbor and the comment of a positive comment or deed can give good karma.

I think that I need to write about this because I am starting to understand why people are so bitchy, mean or even nasty.

A few years ago, I had this group of friends from the college days who were very good friends of mine. But something in the back of my mind never seemed to get a bit of negative feeling about them. These were the days when the weekends were parties and clubbing and my social life was so important, but also my drinking and drug use was quite ramped. Friends and people I socialized with back then was more about popularity then personality. It wasn’t until one day I stopped drinking that I realized these people were really not my friends as they use to say the nastiest things about me. At first I thought is was due to my behavour especially with drinking etc. I lie when I am drunk, probably because I feel that I am someone else. The exact opposite of other people who drink. But once I sobered up, either I became a snob or I just got tired of all the gossip, backstabbing and rumours. Honestly, without this group of friends my life seems normal and peaceful. I saw them a few months ago and the negative cloud that hangs over them is much more visible to me now, and I am glad about the choice that I made. However, it made me realize that negative people are one of the strongest forces of driving the positive attitudes and drives out of good people.

So what defines a good person, is not always being positive because some days the negativity is just all around you. It is someone who can stand up and give something back to people and mankind. Being positive about your surrounding and trying to accept people for who they are and not change them. Accepting that if you don't like someone you tell me straight out that you don't want to hang out or associate with them.

Personally I don’t like hanging out or being friends with lots of people, but it is not saying that I hate them. I choose not to associate with people who don’t fit into my beliefs and life, but I do not disrespect them for their choices. My old group of friends, I wish them the best of luck with their lives, and don’t say anything negative about them. I just don’t want to hang out with them anymore. Also I don’t drink anymore, so I really don’t want to be with my drinking friends anymore, there is nothing wrong with the choices they made just like there is nothing wrong with my choice of not drinking. Also I hate myself when I drink. And at work, there are people I personally don’t like to have long conversations with but it doesn’t mean not to be polite greet them and make idle chit chat.

The reason why I bring these up is because the last few parties, I have met some people with the huge negative cloud over them. It hangs over these people and I can just stare and stare at them and try to figure out why all the negativity. It is quite sad because I can see why many of these people may have so-called friends but honestly they are not true friends or people that really want to hang out with them. I almost can see them being alone for the rest of their lives, which is quite sad. Also the negative people are some of the meanest I have met, not always to me but I do get to over hear the comments about their co-workers and friends and they can be very nasty especially after a few drinks. Are people so confused about themselves and the choices they have made in their lives that they need to inflict this on to others?

But the more I think about it are people so weak in general that they need to hurt others to feel better about their own insecurities? Seriously, there are a shitload of people I don’t want around, not because I am a snob but they are mean individuals, they have no class. If you don’t like someone you should just be honest and say no, why drag them into something if your original intentions are for your own purpose. Karma man, people who are not honest and go out of their way to use others desire to spend the rest of their lives alone.

I think people have the choice to be positive or negative with their attitudes. I strongly believe in Karma, which is if you do something nice then you will receive something nice in return. I strongly believe in it and I have been very lucky in my life with the types of dangers I have experienced and the freaky people who have entered my life. So next time if you want to be mean either from playing your head games with someone, think what that would feel like if someone did something mean to you.

Hey but that is just my opinion.

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