The Basics of Female Sexuality



There are many assumptions about women in Western culture that just won't go away. However, some negative stereotypes are slowly fading. One belief handed down through the generations is that women are less interested in sex than men.

Many in today's society still think that sex for a woman is a matter of pleasing a man rather than of her own enjoyment ...others are convinced that it is wrong for a woman to be aroused or to respond sexually.

The expectation lingering in our society that women play a passive role in sex leaves most of them angry and frustrated, especially when people adhere the myth that men are more knowledgeable about sex. Even in this high-tech age of enlightenment, we have much to learn about sexuality, especially when it comes to women.

Society's understanding of female response to orgasms and sexuality is undeveloped. So whom could you blame, society or our religious background? Or are we are too embarrassed to talk about it? However, the reality is that most women do not know where to begin the education process about sexuality. So what is sexuality? ...It's the positive feeling you feel about yourself that 'turns you on'.

One or all of the following can affect a woman's sexuality:

·Her upbringing, religious background and the level of sexual education in her upbringing.
·Stress level
·Positive communication with her partner
·Age, and her feelings about getting older
·Physical happiness with her body and towards herself as an individual.
·Her normal hormone fluctuations based on the 28-day cycle.

The connection between mind and body is so powerful that emotional problems can become medical ones, particularly with women. Understanding your individual sexuality can be one positive influence in your daily life functions.

Understanding your unique sexuality starts with communication and education, whether you are single or in a relationship. Step one is to understand your body and how it responds.
So where do women start in the education process in sexuality? Through the steps.

Step One:

Educate yourself; understanding your sexuality should be treated no different than a fitness plan.

1.Eat fresh, natural foods and cut back your consumption of high-fat, processed per-packaged products, food and diet also increases smells in your body.
2.Consume nicotine, alcohol and caffeine in moderation; remember if you consume caffeine to take 2 glasses of water per cup of coffee. Smoking reduces the blood flow around the body and blood flow is essential in orgasms.
3.Speak to your doctor about possible side effects of any and all medication, including birth control.
4.Stimulate your senses - smell, touch, sight, and sound - to help put you in the mood. Personally I like the smell of fresh fruit to get me in the mood.
5.Exercise regularly, even if only a bit of exercise daily, a walk a day can help.
6.Make sleep a priority, very important to develop a habit.
7.Reduce stress with things like private time, massages, and masturbation, deep breathing.
8.Start a diary of your goals and what you want to achieve. Begin educating yourself via reading, and doing some research on those goals.
9.Learn all you can about the physiology of your body.

Regardless of all our physical understanding of the female body, most problems still stem from the mind.

The first rule is there is no one rule that applies to everyone; only suggestions from others and the willingness on your part to educate yourself on your body and what makes you tick. Everyone is built differently, with unique responses. There are no categories. The basic is; if you are willing to experiment and educate yourself with new ideas, you will discover a wide range of sexual sensations. This should be a goal-oriented approach to sexuality and to discovering the individual preferences of your own body.

Women need to quit "working' at sex and concentrate on giving themselves permission to relax and enjoy being touched and stimulated. Women should not be concerned about pleasing their partner, instead please yourself and learn more about your mind and body. Men are aroused and stimulated by the sights and sounds of a woman who is clearly enjoying sex with them ...even if a part of that response is being generated from within herself! In this way a woman is able to increase her partner's sexual staying power and performance and in turn promote further personal satisfaction for herself. Of course leads to more mutually rewarding sex between them.